Letting Go of Whats Easy….

 

 

We decide to plan a beautiful hike. We take out the map and pinpoint where we are and mark the destination to where we truly desire to travel. It’s been a lifelong dream to travel there. So, we draw a line connecting the two points and it looks pretty simple. Like a straight shot. It appears to be a beautiful scenic walk. We are excited. We pack our bags and prepare for our journey. Yet, just a few short miles into our trip, we begin to learn we overlooked some details on the map. The challenges we would face. The mountains to be climbed, rivers to be crossed and valleys to be treaded through. So what do we do? Do we quit, turn around and find something easier to do? Or do muster the strength, press through and tackle our goal? Read More →

the power in humility

The Power in Humility

There really is no freedom in hiding behind a mask.

I said this in conversation with a friend today when she asked why I was about to bare my soul and the revelations I’ve had about myself on Facebook. I told her that if I always have to prove myself, put on airs and keep up appearances, who will ever know ME? How will I know that someone ever loves ME? When I disappoint or don’t keep up the facade, will people cling to the act while leaving ME behind? There really is power in humility.   Read More →

If You Love Someone Tell Them…

I planned another Christmas with her, another birthday another Holiday. I saw her there, in my mind. Deciding what I would get her for Christmas this year. You know she always wanted me to get her a pair of navy blue leather gloves with a scarf to match. And this was gonna be the year I did. My Aunt. She was one of the best dressed women I knew. Even with her cancer diagnosis, despite the negative news from doctors, I still made plans. I was gonna make sure I sat next to her at my daughter’s upcoming graduation. So I could pass her the tissue as she wiped her tears of joy as my daughter walked across stage (she acted tough but joyous occasions always made her cry). I planned on sitting beside her in church just one more time, so I could smell her perfume and eat all her peppermints, like I did when I was a little girl. Oh the plans I had. Upon her short unexpected death, as I was walking throughout her home, I could see that she still had plans, by seeing the many things she left behind. Plans to travel, plans to give and plans to live. And although there were more plans. I never got to see them through with her…. Read More →

graduation season

Graduation Season

Yes – it is graduation season. Not a day goes by that I don’t see a stream of pics of caps, gowns and diplomas on my social media timelines. Whether it is a kindergartner getting ready to go to 1st grade or an accomplished scholar completing their doctorate, the emotions are all the same. Excitement, a sense of accomplishment and pride, and a tinge of fear of what is on the other side of the promotion all surround these momentous occasions. But what about the times when promotion isn’t highlighted? What about the small happenings and triumphs we endure daily that go unnoticed? Read More →

bias, implicit bias

Are You Biased?

Implicit bias is defined as a positive or negative mental attitude towards a person, thing, or group that a person holds at an unconscious level. Most times when we hear the word BIAS, it is used to describe a negative outlook that affects people demographically. We typically hear of racial bias and gender bias. But what about how these biases manifest themselves in your faith and love walk? Read More →

How Your Nagging Negatively Impacts Your Relationships

 

 

Nagging came natural to me. Nagging about money, kids, chores and just about anything. I had to give my opinion and I had to have something to say. The house needed cleaning, the car needed fixing, the roof needed repairing, clothes needed to be folded and well I thought that nagging made things happen. I didn’t understand the negative impact of nagging until my husband and I went to marriage counseling. The words my husband used to explain the way he felt when I nagged, is what led to a much needed change. Read More →

leaving a lasting legacy

Leaving a Lasting Legacy

What is the legacy that you want to leave? I know many of us avoid talking about death, so we don’t really think about the impact we will leave once we are gone. But I believe it is so important as to how we live our lives today. At work, I have been planning a Mother’s Day campaign that pushes people to pray for moms. Mother’s Day is a touchy subject for many because they either have lost their moms or they don’t have the relationship they desire to have with their biological mothers. One lady commented yesterday saying that she enjoyed the prayers I was posting on our blog but she and her sister needed prayer because they’d lost their mom on Good Friday and it was their first Mother’s Day without her. That touched me deeply as a friend of mine recently lost her mom and another is without her mom, grandmother and first-born daughter. So I went ahead and crafted a special prayer just for her and posted it on the blog. I felt that not only she, but many others needed to be thought of, cared for and prayed for this weekend. Read More →