This morning Facebook’s On This Day app once again reminded me of a post I shared two years ago.
This made me think about the people in my life and where to position relationships, but also about how I am managing my own talents. It is much like a human resources office. When companies are looking at talent management, they assess their employees capabilities as well as their weaknesses, their experiences with the company and references. Then they make decisions on where to place the talent. Many of us need to make these very assessments within our own lives as well as amongst those we spend the most time with in order to get the most of our ourselves and our relationships.
To put it bluntly, jealousy really is a sad reality for some. This characteristic is exhibited when an individual thinks more highly of you than they think of themselves. When you are making moves, dreaming, and managing your talents effectively, some people just don’t want to accept the fact that they too can do the same. So they prey on you, cut you down with their words and try to force their lack of faith on you so that you become less productive. You know the friend. The one who you share your goals with and they make snide remarks like, “mmm OK. Do you then, girl,” or “well, everybody ain’t able to…” Yes. You are. We all are able because we’ve each been issued a measure of gifts and grace.
Talent management requires time and resource management. It reminds me of the story of the parable of the talents. (Matthew 25:14-30) The master gave his three servants an unequal distribution of talents – each according to his own abilities. One he gave five, one he gave two and another he gave one. The one who had the least was most afraid to take the risk to increase his talents, so he just buried his in the ground. When the master returned, he was scolded for being lazy and his one talent was taken away and given to the one who originally had five but multiplied it to have ten.
I’m sure the talent manager who had his talent swiped away was jealous of those who were given more. He was probably increasingly jealous when his one talent was given to the one who had the most. But he had no right to be discontented because he was complacent and just buried what was given to him in the first place. Isn’t this like some of us? We see others moving in their gifts and think something is special about them. That we too can’t proliferate with what we’re given. Then jealousy brews and creates that sad reality that we spoke of previously.
We each are given the same amount of time in a day. I’m not naive to think that my time and a working single mother’s time are equitable. However, she has talents just like I do and vice versa. I can’t look at her and be upset if she makes something out of her resources when I took mine for granted and never exercised my gifts.
I recently went back into the workforce. Previously, I had all the time in the world on my hands to do whatever my heart desired. I can’t say I used all of my time wisely and I looked around at others who were more fruitful than I was and wondered what I was doing wrong. Now, I have a huge portion of my day taken away to tend to someone else’s business. Now that I’m busy from 6:45 AM until 6:45 PM, I am more cognizant of the time that I don’t have to spend. As I said before, talent management is time management. What you don’t use, you lose. We just have to be more strategic with where and with whom we spend our time.
Your gifts are supposed to make room for you and bring you before great men. But how will they work for you if you never work them? Are you maximizing your time and efforts or are you being lazy and making excuses? Be honest.