Can you think of someone that you truly love? One that you would do anything for? You speak kind words to them, showing compassion, consideration and patience? You go out of the way for them, embracing their flaws, uplifting them with encouraging words and making sacrifices. Regardless of their mistakes and shortcomings, your love does not fail. This kind of deep love, who do you think of? Your spouse, children, parents or a close friend? Could you possibly allow that person to be You? Are you love in with yourself?
If the answer to the question above is yes, I would like to think that you are truly treating yourself like you love yourself? With compassion, patience, kindness, generosity and thoughtfulness. Speaking to yourself in love, taking care of your body with love and living like you truly love yourself? However, if you are on the opposite side of the spectrum and you know that you struggle with loving yourself, you know that you find it easier to love someone else and you don’t have kind words to say to or about yourself. You also live in disappointment, sadness and guilt. Let me say, I have been there and I know the feeling. Its paralyzing. Yet you must know, God doesn’t desire you to live a life that way (John 10:10). He wants you to love you, the way He loves You. Here are 3 unique ways to beginning to fall (back) in love with yourself.
Fully Accept Your Past
We all have a past. Full of mistakes, let downs and hurts. Many shoulda coulda wouldas and mental torment and baggage if we allow it. Many of us don’t like to think of our past. However, it’s necessary to own it. I’ve learned from personal experience that when you try to hide, run from or deny your past, that’s when your life is surrounded by shame and guilt. When was the last time you pondered on your past in a positive way? It’s possible. Take time to ruminate and contemplate over your past. Ask yourself, what did you learn from it and how have you grown from it? You’re not the same person that you were in the past. You have grown and evolved. Accept the past for what it is…the past. Owning it and truly understanding that your future is much greater will help you take a step toward falling in love with yourself (Philippians 3:13).
That woman that you know, that seems to have a better life than you. More money, better clothes and career, nicer car, prettier than you and has perfect kids and husband. All the greatness you see in her and her life, you must see in your own. You must believe, you are unique. Your hair, your personality, your smile, the way you dress, your own personal story. Count your blessings, focus on all the good things about you. Theodore Roosevelt said “Comparison is the thief of joy” and I must agree. If you compare your ways to someone else ways, you will never be fully joyful about being you. Instead, it can and will lead to envy (James 3:16).
Spend Time With Love
How can you fully love yourself, if you don’t know what love is? And how can you learn about what love is? You learn from Love Himself and who is Love? God (1John 4:16) You must spend time with Love to know how to truly love you. Take time daily to read God’s love letter to you (Bible). You will begin to obtain revelation of what Love really is and in return expressing that towards yourself. You must fall in love with Love (God) in order to fall in love with yourself.
“Love is patient. love is kind…” – 1Cointhians 13:4
L.A.W., I am one unique soul; heavily introverted, a far less that perfect past and deeply flawed. Yet, its easy for me to love me, because I know that God loves me, with my imperfections in all. There has been times in my life that I didn’t love me, yet God’s word has revealed to me the Truth and I accept it. You can too.
Ladies After Wisdom, Embrace You. Accept You and most importantly Love You. If you don’t love you. You can’t possibly love someone else in which the way they truly deserve to be loved. God is perfect and if He can love the imperfect flawed you unconditionally, then why can’t you love yourself? You are beautiful, smart, talented, brave, courageous, funny, bright, unique and so much more more. Yet, none of that matters, if you don’t believe it. Believe it! Walk in it! Own it! You must learn to see yourself the way God sees you. L.A.W., I love you. All is well ;o).
Read: 1 Corinthians 13
Affirmation: I love the uniquely imperfect and flawed me…unconditionally.
Prayer for Self Love: Heavenly Father, its me again ;). I love and thank You for Your Grace and Mercy. Your word is beautiful and I adore your works. Father, I know You desire for me to love me. I know that You desire a life for me that is abundant (John 10:10). Yet, I also know that I can’t possibly live an abundant life without loving myself. Forgive me for the dark emotions and actions that I have displayed towards myself. Help me Father to treat myself with love, in my mind (Phil 4:8), body (1 Cor 6:19-20) and spirit (Matt 22: 37-38). Lead me Lord to a life of love. Let me display it unconditionally to myself as well as others. Guide me to Your truth about me. Bless me to walk eagerly to a bright future while you remind me how you have forgotten my past (Psalm 103:12). Lead me away from envy and comparison and give me a strong desire to spend time with you engaging Your Word.
In Jesus Name, Amen