Setting Boundaries, One of The Greatest Things You Could Do For Yourself.

When I was younger, I thought the rules my parents set forth were unfair, selfish and uncalled for. I thought they just wanted to control me and be strict. I would think to myself..Why did I have to have a curfew? Why couldn’t I have boyfriends until a certain age? Why couldn’t I be friends with who I wanted? Why is it not okay for me to argue and fight with my siblings? It wasn’t until I got older and built a relationship with God that I began to understand the answer to those why’s. The answer was love. And although, I am not in my parents home now, it is still necessary to follow rules…God’s rules.

Now that we are older we can choose not to follow the rules that our parents set forth for us. We can come home anytime we’d like, we can date and hangout with whomever, we can eat how we want, talk like we want and even live like we want. However, just because we can, doesn’t necessarily mean we should. One of the most wonderful things about being an adult is the freedom in choosing the way we live. God has given us the grace to do what we will with our lives; staying single or getting married, having kids or not, building relationships and careers, just to name a few. However, in the pursuit of living life the way we choose, how are we using God’s grace? Just because we are out of our parents home, doesn’t mean we are out of God’s sight. Are we setting boundaries, or running rampant because we have the freedom to?

“So what should we do? Should we sin because we are under grace and not under law? Certainly not!” Romans 6:15

Now, we know that the ultimate boundaries and rules are set forth in Deuteronomy 5, which is the Ten commandments. Which God has set forth for our own good. Although He has set these rules for us, scripture tells us that we have all fallen short (Romans 3:23) and disobeyed God at some point in our lives. Just think about how many of these Ten Commands you have broken? Three, Four…for many of us, we can say all.

  • Have no other gods
  • Have No Idols
  • Honor Gods Name
  • Honor the Sabbath Day
  • Honor Your Parents
  • Do not Murder
  • Do not Commit Adultery
  • Do not Steal
  • Do not Lie
  • Do not Want What Others Have

I thought the same thing about the Ten Commandments that I thought of my own parents rules, that they were strict, smothering and unfair. However, I learned it was God’s love that drove the Ten Commandments. He desires for us all to have a good life and to live reverently before Him (Deut 6:20-25). And we could have that, if we follow His rules. If we think about times in our lives when we disobeyed God and even our parents rules, we can often find difficult consequences that followed behind. Fornication, lying, stealing; It may have been fun for the moment (Hebrew 11:25), yet there was always consequences.

We all desire to live a good life, an abundant life right? Then boundaries must be set. God set out rules for us because He loves us, that is why we should set boundaries in all areas of our lives in order to follow those rules. We must ask ourselves, what boundaries must we set in order to not lie, to not cheat on our spouses, to honor our parents, to not fornicate, to not be jealous and more. If we have no boundaries, it leaves a door wide open to sin and we know that sin leads to death. (Romans 6:23). Perhaps we need to walk away when others are gossiping so that we do not fall into deceit, we may need not be alone with other men to keep from being tempted to fornicate or commit adultery or maybe we need not compare ourselves with others to steer away from jealousy. If God loves us enough to set rules for us then we ought to love ourselves enough to set boundaries to fulfill them. God’s love is so great, He desires for us to succeed and have the victory in every area of our lives. Why not try and learn to love ourselves the way God loves us. Set boundaries.

Ladies After Wisdom, speaking from my past, disobeying God’s rules led to fornication, children before marriage, financial troubles and I can go on and on. All of my choices had consequences, which made my life much more challenging than it could have been. It’s easy to get into trouble but it’s hard to get out of it. I am grateful for God’s grace because He helped me get my life in order. Often times we think that we know what’s best for us and the truth is, we don’t, it’s just pride. We can’t possibly no more than what our Maker knows and if He says these are the rules, then we should follow them. If we set those boundaries for ourselves we could have a much more simpler and blessed life. Yes following rules can be hard. But it necessary. Even when boundaries are set, temptations may come, we are not perfect, there maybe times when we fall, pick yourself back up, ask for forgiveness, get back on track and seek to please God. He is looking at your heart (1Samuel 16:7)

L.A.W., boundaries needs to be set in every area of our lives. Marriage, parenting, finances, work etc. For example, maybe there are people you know that you shouldn’t befriend because you could be tempted to gossip or lie, or maybe you need to change your work schedule so you have a day out of the week to keep holy and rest, perhaps you need to limit what you watch on TV and social media so you won’t be tempted to covet. Seek God, He will reveal to you what boundaries need to be set. L.A.W., love yourself enough to set boundaries. I love you. All is well.

Read: Romans 6

Affirmation: I follow God’s rules and set boundaries for myself because I love God and I love me.

Prayer for Boundaries: My precious Heavenly Father, it’s me again. I thank You for grace and mercy. Thank You for loving me enough to share Your Word and Your Truth. I adore You. Father, often in life I believe that I know what’s best for me, when the truth is You know what’s best. Father it’s good for me to know Your laws, however it’s even better that I follow them. Help me Father, to set boundaries to keep in line with Your rules you have set for me, because I know that You love me (John 3:16). Teach me Father how great Your love is for me, so that in return I may love myself just as great. Forgive me for disobeying you.  Give me a heart to please You and not man (Gal 1:10). Bless me Father, to not give in to fleshly desires, but to live a life of holiness  (1Peter 1:14-16).

In Jesus Name, Amen

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Written by Aquilla

A Believer. A Wife. A Mom. A Writer. Continuously chasing after wisdom. Desiring to share whats being learned on this beautiful journey called life. All In hopes to encourage, uplift and motivate.

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