February is the month we celebrate LOVE so I wanted to write something to spark your thoughts and create a discussion around the topic. The word love is thrown around so frivolously that it has become less and less meaningful. I was reflecting the other day on how often I am told or I tell someone “I love you” and it is not often. To be quite honest, those words make me feel a bit uneasy sometimes, so I had to examine why. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that it makes me uneasy because those who have told me that they loved me haven’t always demonstrated it in a positive way. Not only that, I always want to make sure I really, truly mean it before I say it rather than carelessly tell someone I love them. Those words have weight to them, and in many cases, they’re subjective and mean different things to different people. So where IS the love? Most of us know 1 Corinthians 13 as the love chapter of the Bible. It tells us that love is patient, kind, longsuffering, humble, selfless, peaceable, and unfailing. All of these same characteristics can be found in the character of God. Love is an action word, not just a feeling. It IS and it DOES. God summed up His love for us in the sacrifice He made by giving of Himself so that we might be in communion and relationship with Him. He intentionally made Himself vulnerable and brought Himself down to our level so that we could relate when He did not have to.
I have been challenged so much in my love walk that I am afraid to even pray for love anymore! LOL. Because I know love costs something. It takes you beyond yourself and compels you to be patient, suffer long with others, give of yourself without seeking anything in return, and to cover the faults and shortcomings of those that you love. This is REAL love expressed – not just the sensual love that so many of us stop short at.
Throughout this month, I want you (and me) to truly reflect on what love is and what love does. Go the extra mile to be honest, giving, and expressive of your love towards others. Whether it is a compliment, a hug, a greater sensitivity to an unmet need, or spending time with someone you have neglected in the midst of the hustle and bustle. Do something to stretch your love for someone. Not only will their heart be warmed, but yours will too. Then your verbal expression of “I love you” will have much more weight to it.
Talk back to me. What are some tangible ways we can intentionally love on others? Post in the comments below.