If You Love Someone Tell Them…

I planned another Christmas with her, another birthday another Holiday. I saw her there, in my mind. Deciding what I would get her for Christmas this year. You know she always wanted me to get her a pair of navy blue leather gloves with a scarf to match. And this was gonna be the year I did. My Aunt. She was one of the best dressed women I knew. Even with her cancer diagnosis, despite the negative news from doctors, I still made plans. I was gonna make sure I sat next to her at my daughter’s upcoming graduation. So I could pass her the tissue as she wiped her tears of joy as my daughter walked across stage (she acted tough but joyous occasions always made her cry). I planned on sitting beside her in church just one more time, so I could smell her perfume and eat all her peppermints, like I did when I was a little girl. Oh the plans I had. Upon her short unexpected death, as I was walking throughout her home, I could see that she still had plans, by seeing the many things she left behind. Plans to travel, plans to give and plans to live. And although there were more plans. I never got to see them through with her…. Read More →

graduation season

Graduation Season

Yes – it is graduation season. Not a day goes by that I don’t see a stream of pics of caps, gowns and diplomas on my social media timelines. Whether it is a kindergartner getting ready to go to 1st grade or an accomplished scholar completing their doctorate, the emotions are all the same. Excitement, a sense of accomplishment and pride, and a tinge of fear of what is on the other side of the promotion all surround these momentous occasions. But what about the times when promotion isn’t highlighted? What about the small happenings and triumphs we endure daily that go unnoticed? Read More →

bias, implicit bias

Are You Biased?

Implicit bias is defined as a positive or negative mental attitude towards a person, thing, or group that a person holds at an unconscious level. Most times when we hear the word BIAS, it is used to describe a negative outlook that affects people demographically. We typically hear of racial bias and gender bias. But what about how these biases manifest themselves in your faith and love walk? Read More →

How Your Nagging Negatively Impacts Your Relationships

 

 

Nagging came natural to me. Nagging about money, kids, chores and just about anything. I had to give my opinion and I had to have something to say. The house needed cleaning, the car needed fixing, the roof needed repairing, clothes needed to be folded and well I thought that nagging made things happen. I didn’t understand the negative impact of nagging until my husband and I went to marriage counseling. The words my husband used to explain the way he felt when I nagged, is what led to a much needed change. Read More →

leaving a lasting legacy

Leaving a Lasting Legacy

What is the legacy that you want to leave? I know many of us avoid talking about death, so we don’t really think about the impact we will leave once we are gone. But I believe it is so important as to how we live our lives today. At work, I have been planning a Mother’s Day campaign that pushes people to pray for moms. Mother’s Day is a touchy subject for many because they either have lost their moms or they don’t have the relationship they desire to have with their biological mothers. One lady commented yesterday saying that she enjoyed the prayers I was posting on our blog but she and her sister needed prayer because they’d lost their mom on Good Friday and it was their first Mother’s Day without her. That touched me deeply as a friend of mine recently lost her mom and another is without her mom, grandmother and first-born daughter. So I went ahead and crafted a special prayer just for her and posted it on the blog. I felt that not only she, but many others needed to be thought of, cared for and prayed for this weekend. Read More →

What Does Abundance Mean to You?

 

Get up and start morning routine. Breakfast. Then get kids ready. Start dinner in crock pot. Go to work. Come home. Time with hubby. Eat dinner. Check kids homework. Pick out school clothes. Get kids ready for bed. Pray. Read. Nightly routine. Then go to bed. Next morning…get up and start morning routine. Then get kids ready. Start dinner in crock pot. Go to work. Come home…Then hit the repeat button for the rest of the week. Does this sound like your week? Your life? The same routine over and over? Nothing new? Having a family and career is so rewarding. It brings fulfillment a sense of purpose and belonging. So much joy accompanies having those responsibilities. Yet at the same, being so engulfed in those responsibilities can hinder us from truly experiencing life and all there is to see and do. Read More →

Season of loneliness

Season of Loneliness

 

How well do you know yourself? How much do you love yourself? How well can you tolerate being by yourself? These may seem like easy or obvious questions to pose. But most people never consider them. We are accustomed to being in relation to other people. Even the Bible tells us in the creation story that it was not good for mankind to be alone. As a single woman with no kids, I have experienced an extended season of loneliness. I used to decry and abhor my solitude until I realized just how strong it has made me. Read More →

Are You Judging Correctly?

 

 

An older woman walks into a small town bank and asks to speak with the bank manager. “I would like to purchase a brand new Cadillac”, she states. The bank manager, Tom took one look at her and wondered how she would pay for such a car. You see, this woman was dirty. Her nails filled with grit, jeans ripped and filthy. Hair stringy and she didn’t smell too pleasant either. The bank manager, then let her know the process she would have to go through to get approval for a loan. “I won’t need a loan, just call Tracey at your other branch location on 15th Ave. She knows how I can get the money”, the older woman stated politely. Tom thought the woman was delusional to think she could afford an $80k car looking the way she did. However, he wanted to seem polite so he asked the woman to wait a moment while he made the call. Once he spoke with Tracey the bank manager at the other location she informed him that this older woman had over 5 million dollars in trusts and investments and that she had millions at other banks as well. “Give her whatever she needs”, Tracey stated. Tom the bank manager, was a bit lost and confused wondering why a woman of that caliber, with that type of money would walk in the bank looking the way she did. He began to understand after he learned the whole story. Read More →