Are You Afraid of the Light?


I know you are thinking…Afraid of the light? Don’t you mean the dark? No, I wrote it right the first time…the light. The light I am referring to is not the sunlight, or light from a light bulb, but the light within yourself. Chapter 5 of Matthew talks about The Beatitudes (also known as the Sermon on the Mount) that Jesus preached to the disciples about how to live a righteous life. Verse 14 says “you are the light of the world” and verse 16 says “let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” No matter what you have done in the past, that doesn’t define who you are. You have hopes, dreams, and goals.

I have a confession, I am afraid of MY light. I can celebrate someone else’s light all day long, but mine? I didn’t think I had any light until recently. Queen, you are fabulous, and I’m not just talking about your outer appearance. You are fabulous on the inside. THAT is your light. That dream you have, that passion you have, GO FOR IT! God gave all of us gifts and purpose and we are afraid of tapping into that. I was (and still am a little bit…I’m a work in progress) afraid of MYSELF! God gave me a wonderful heart and a creative and sharp mind and I let the enemy have hold of it for far too long. It’s time I take it back! I was afraid of succeeding…not failing, but SUCCEEDING! I would see people on social media doing what I wanted to do and seemed to be flourishing and I would get discouraged. I had to realize first of all everything may not be what it seems. Second, I am looking at page 97 of their story, not the beginning. I don’t know what it took for them to get where they are. Third, their path is NOT my path. Yes, we may be interested in similar things, but God has a way of using us differently. So the same things that worked for someone else will NOT work for you.

God has a way of getting your attention. He took the aftermath of my miscarriage to transform me. I had to get to the bottom of all the years of conforming to what other people thought I should be, low self esteem, running from God, destructive behaviors, looking for love in ALL the wrong places, grief, anxiety, and depression. I had to see who I REALLY was. I’m still learning who God wants me to be and getting reacquainted with myself, well really meeting her for the first time if we are going to be real about the situation. You get used to being in the dark, that yes, at first the light hurts your eyes. You can’t see that well, but you know it’s beautiful out there and you can’t wait for your eyes to adjust to the scenery before you. That’s where I am, my eyes are adjusting, but I’ve gotten glimpses of what’s before me and from now on the only time I’m cutting the light off is to go to bed at night.

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Shifting Gears

shifting gears

Facebook is funny. It just started this thing where it shows you things you posted on this day last year and the years prior. Sometimes I don’t need a reminder – I just want to leave those memories in the distant past. But I recently came across a post of mine from 3 years ago that said: I shift more gears than a 4-speed Yugo in rush hour traffic. And I still feel this way. Shifting gears has become more of a way of life for me than something that happens occasionally. I am no stranger to change. Read More →

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Are You an Alpha Woman?

Recently, a post came across my Facebook timeline that I shared. It outlined characteristics of an Alpha Woman. As I read it, of course I compared my life to it to see if I met the perceived standards. Yep, I measured up. I then had conversations with a few friends on different occasions about what it meant to be an Alpha Woman and it made me think about the implications. Here are the standards: Read More →

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You Can’t Run From Your Calling


You Can't Run From Your CallingIf it’s one thing that I have learned lately it is that you can’t run from your calling. Running from your calling is the equivalent of running away from yourself – it is impossible. If you are trying to live a Purpose Driven Life, if you are on a path to success, and you are passionate about something you will always find your way back. You can’t run from your calling. Read More →

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Waiting on the Sun to Rise


It’s been a long time, I shouldna left you…
God has a way of getting your attention, making you realize that you are NOT in control, making you move out of comfort zone, making you trust His plan and ways. Currently I am LITERALLY living Psalm 30:5 “Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning.”

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So You Think You Had Plans?

We all made plans at a young age on how our lives would be as we became adults. I had this plan where by the time I was 25 I was going to have my Master’s degree in something, be married, and maybe have a kid. I was going to be making decent money, drive a nice car, etc. Wellllll let me tell you something, God laughs at our plans.

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Finding Your Purpose: Your How

how to find your purpose

I have been completely fulfilled through this blog series on finding your purpose. As I have been writing about attaining greater focus, I have forced myself to walk the walk. I guess I have found a purposeful pursuit just through this exercise! This week we’ll go even further by exploring how we will bring these goals to life.  Read More →

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Finding Your Purpose: Your When

Finding Your Purpose - When

We’ve been on the journey to finding your purpose for the past few weeks. I’m sure there have been some great discoveries made – I sure have done some deep digging and soul searching. This week’s discovery places the onus to finding your purpose directly in your lap. No more excuses! Often times we know what to do, we know why we need to, but we don’t put a time stamp on when we will make it happen. When we neglect to place deadlines on our goals, they just become fleeting wishes. Did you read that? Let me write it again.

When we neglect to place deadlines on our goals, they just become fleeting wishes. 

How many times have you had an idea or “unction” to do something and you don’t write it down or place a deadline on it? Then you look back after something brings that idea back to memory and you say “I wish I had done XYZ then, by now I’d be so much farther along”. Trust me, I’ve done this all too often. But its time out for procrastination. I’m putting my feet to the fire and I’m charging you to do the same. There’s so much in store for us just beyond that first step. I’ve seen God’s grace in so many ways when I’ve just made the first move. I’ve said in a previous post that my friends always seem to think I’m doing or accomplishing so much. It’s not that I am on some kind of goal steroids, its simply because I make a move when I get an idea before I can allow fear, procrastination and other obligations to stand in the way.

If you aren’t convinced that you need to set a date with destiny, let me ask, when was the last time you felt true fulfillment and a deep sense of accomplishment? Go back to that place in your mind and recall how great, how freeing, how present you felt. If it has been too long ago for you to remember, you owe yourself. But if you think back to that time and you smile or brighten up, the answer to your passion and purpose is right there. Think about that instance and why you felt so great.

I am a firm believer that life is not meant to be hard. I believe that we are created to fulfill a destiny and in fulfilling our purpose we are filled up. If you feel defeated and depleted it is likely because you are trying to walk out a destiny or accomplish some feat that isn’t for you to be pursuing in the first place. Life is too short to be miserable or to have a long list of fleeting wishes. When you take your last breath, you should be completely done with your charge. Leave nothing on the table. No wishes or desires should be left unfulfilled because of fear or procrastination. I know this may sound difficult to do, but all it really takes is a dedicated focus and prioritization of your time. Remember last week when I had you write down the things you spend your time on? That was so that you could clear your calendar of the things that waste time, make no sense, and bring you no closer to your destiny and purpose. Now you have no excuse. You can no longer say “I don’t have time to do this”. I am willing to bet you that we just found at least 5 hours of free time per week for you to spend pursuing purposeful activities.

Now that you have more time, when is your deadline for achieving your goal? Write it down in your journal. If your goal is large (and it should be challenging) break that goal down into bite sized chunks with deadlines on them. Don’t get overwhelmed by looking at the end goal – this is when procrastination brews. Just look at it as incremental steps that will ultimately bring you to your goal. Consistency is the key. Set a time each week (or each day if you are bold) to dedicate to your purposeful pursuit. Before you know it you will be where you would have only wished had you not placed a deadline on it.

Is this helping you? Let me know in the comments. If you’re pressing forward with me, write your goal and your deadline below. We’re going to hold each other accountable. Here’s mine: I will finish writing my book by January 31, 2016. I will do this by writing for at least an hour a week.

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Finding Your Purpose: Your What

finding purpose and passion

Now that we’ve conquered your why, let’s move onto what. There are things each of us are wired instinctively to do or to love. What do you constantly think about?  What motivates you? I’m certain there is something in this world that just at the mention of it your face brightens, your eyes light up and you begin to crack a smile. That’s IT! Read More →

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Finding Your Purpose: Your Why

purpose and passion - why do you do the things you do

When finding your purpose, you should begin by asking yourself questions. One of those questions is simply – why? If you don’t know why, you can’t find what, when, where and you definitely won’t figure out how. So let’s begin by pulling this simple, yet profound question apart.  Read More →

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