What is the legacy that you want to leave? I know many of us avoid talking about death, so we don’t really think about the impact we will leave once we are gone. But I believe it is so important as to how we live our lives today. At work, I have been planning a Mother’s Day campaign that pushes people to pray for moms. Mother’s Day is a touchy subject for many because they either have lost their moms or they don’t have the relationship they desire to have with their biological mothers. One lady commented yesterday saying that she enjoyed the prayers I was posting on our blog but she and her sister needed prayer because they’d lost their mom on Good Friday and it was their first Mother’s Day without her. That touched me deeply as a friend of mine recently lost her mom and another is without her mom, grandmother and first-born daughter. So I went ahead and crafted a special prayer just for her and posted it on the blog. I felt that not only she, but many others needed to be thought of, cared for and prayed for this weekend. Read More →
In life, we will have to face many shifts and transitions that may cause us to become weary and defeated at times. It is in those moments that we must be even more aware of what God is doing, saying and preparing for us. WE MUST BE OPEN TO OUR PROCESS… Whether good or bad, there are certain things we have to endure, in order to gain the lessons of each journey. God has recently revealed to me how important The Process is in every shift of life. Read More →
A woman’s greatest strength is her femininity. We inherently own a quality that men yearn for. It has nothing to do with sex but everything to do with our gentleness, softness and quiet confidence. I am coming to realize that for quite some time my perspective on my worth as a woman has been slightly skewed and it has kept me from succeeding in relationships just as much as I have succeeded in gaining degrees and in business. Read More →
2015 was a year in which I experienced quite a few devastating losses. I lost love, I lost a job, lost clients, friendships, and I quite honestly lost a part of myself in the process. For months on end I was hit with blow after debilitating blow. Loss is a natural part of life. Old, useless, dead things make way for new things all the time. It is how our seasons change, bodies grow, and lives evolve. At some point we will all be on the rebound from something. I believe how you handle loss determines the trajectory of your next rise. I learned so much about myself last year, which means all of the losses weren’t horrible. I’m still here. I want to help someone avoid some of the same pitfalls that I now find myself dusting myself off from. So here’s what NOT to do when you’re on the rebound. Read More →
I have been completely fulfilled through this blog series on finding your purpose. As I have been writing about attaining greater focus, I have forced myself to walk the walk. I guess I have found a purposeful pursuit just through this exercise! This week we’ll go even further by exploring how we will bring these goals to life. Read More →
We’ve been on the journey to finding your purpose for the past few weeks. I’m sure there have been some great discoveries made – I sure have done some deep digging and soul searching. This week’s discovery places the onus to finding your purpose directly in your lap. No more excuses! Often times we know what to do, we know why we need to, but we don’t put a time stamp on when we will make it happen. When we neglect to place deadlines on our goals, they just become fleeting wishes. Did you read that? Let me write it again.
When we neglect to place deadlines on our goals, they just become fleeting wishes.
How many times have you had an idea or “unction” to do something and you don’t write it down or place a deadline on it? Then you look back after something brings that idea back to memory and you say “I wish I had done XYZ then, by now I’d be so much farther along”. Trust me, I’ve done this all too often. But its time out for procrastination. I’m putting my feet to the fire and I’m charging you to do the same. There’s so much in store for us just beyond that first step. I’ve seen God’s grace in so many ways when I’ve just made the first move. I’ve said in a previous post that my friends always seem to think I’m doing or accomplishing so much. It’s not that I am on some kind of goal steroids, its simply because I make a move when I get an idea before I can allow fear, procrastination and other obligations to stand in the way.
If you aren’t convinced that you need to set a date with destiny, let me ask, when was the last time you felt true fulfillment and a deep sense of accomplishment? Go back to that place in your mind and recall how great, how freeing, how present you felt. If it has been too long ago for you to remember, you owe yourself. But if you think back to that time and you smile or brighten up, the answer to your passion and purpose is right there. Think about that instance and why you felt so great.
I am a firm believer that life is not meant to be hard. I believe that we are created to fulfill a destiny and in fulfilling our purpose we are filled up. If you feel defeated and depleted it is likely because you are trying to walk out a destiny or accomplish some feat that isn’t for you to be pursuing in the first place. Life is too short to be miserable or to have a long list of fleeting wishes. When you take your last breath, you should be completely done with your charge. Leave nothing on the table. No wishes or desires should be left unfulfilled because of fear or procrastination. I know this may sound difficult to do, but all it really takes is a dedicated focus and prioritization of your time. Remember last week when I had you write down the things you spend your time on? That was so that you could clear your calendar of the things that waste time, make no sense, and bring you no closer to your destiny and purpose. Now you have no excuse. You can no longer say “I don’t have time to do this”. I am willing to bet you that we just found at least 5 hours of free time per week for you to spend pursuing purposeful activities.
Now that you have more time, when is your deadline for achieving your goal? Write it down in your journal. If your goal is large (and it should be challenging) break that goal down into bite sized chunks with deadlines on them. Don’t get overwhelmed by looking at the end goal – this is when procrastination brews. Just look at it as incremental steps that will ultimately bring you to your goal. Consistency is the key. Set a time each week (or each day if you are bold) to dedicate to your purposeful pursuit. Before you know it you will be where you would have only wished had you not placed a deadline on it.
Is this helping you? Let me know in the comments. If you’re pressing forward with me, write your goal and your deadline below. We’re going to hold each other accountable. Here’s mine: I will finish writing my book by January 31, 2016. I will do this by writing for at least an hour a week.
Now that we’ve conquered your why, let’s move onto what. There are things each of us are wired instinctively to do or to love. What do you constantly think about? What motivates you? I’m certain there is something in this world that just at the mention of it your face brightens, your eyes light up and you begin to crack a smile. That’s IT! Read More →
When finding your purpose, you should begin by asking yourself questions. One of those questions is simply – why? If you don’t know why, you can’t find what, when, where and you definitely won’t figure out how. So let’s begin by pulling this simple, yet profound question apart. Read More →