February is the month we celebrate LOVE so I wanted to write something to spark your thoughts and create a discussion around the topic. The word love is thrown around so frivolously that it has become less and less meaningful. I was reflecting the other day on how often I am told or I tell someone “I love you” and it is not often. To be quite honest, those words make me feel a bit uneasy sometimes, so I had to examine why. Ultimately, I came to the conclusion that it makes me uneasy because those who have told me that they loved me haven’t always demonstrated it in a positive way. Not only that, I always want to make sure I really, truly mean it before I say it rather than carelessly tell someone I love them. Those words have weight to them, and in many cases, they’re subjective and mean different things to different people. So where IS the love? Read More →
If you have been reading this blog long enough, you know that one thing is consistent: WE SUPPORT WOMEN. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t where you want to be (Hint: none of us are) or if you think you’re perfect, pray 3x a day and fast every other Friday. All of us need a tribe of other strong sisters that we can share transparent moments with. A group who will keep us going when the world becomes overwhelmingly harsh. For this reason, I am sharing a Facebook message that a friend of mine posted about an experience she had with someone who was rather insensitive:
Calculated risks are chances of exposure to loss or injury that might be undertaken after their advantages and disadvantages have been carefully weighed and considered.
Because I want to steer the narrative in this post, I’m going to change the word CHANCE to OPPORTUNITY and I also want to shift the negative words of LOSS and INJURY to GAIN. Just follow me… Read More →
Let me tell you something… nobody encounters fear more than me. I can almost promise you that. I am one of the most scariest folks you want to meet. I’m the chick who scared myself with my own hand once! (Don’t ask…) Fear will step to you, stand square in your face and stare you down until you are paralyzed if you allow it to. But inasmuch as I tend to be fearful, I have learned over time how to feel the fear and do it anyway. I have gone through enough situations to know that I am more than a conqueror. Read More →
When you’ve been blessed, you have an obligation to praise God. I can look back over 2017 and see all of the wonderful things God brought me through and tears begin to stream down my face in wonder. “Why did you choose me, God?” “What have I done to draw you near me and cause you to favor me?” I am absolutely nothing and most of the times I’ve got it 110% WRONG. But God…
There really is no freedom in hiding behind a mask.
I said this in conversation with a friend today when she asked why I was about to bare my soul and the revelations I’ve had about myself on Facebook. I told her that if I always have to prove myself, put on airs and keep up appearances, who will ever know ME? How will I know that someone ever loves ME? When I disappoint or don’t keep up the facade, will people cling to the act while leaving ME behind? There really is power in humility. Read More →
We all love the blessings of God, but will we still love God when He appears He stops blessing us? Or appears He is not for us? With the depth of God comes a deeper relationship. The butterflies will soon fade and what you are truly destined to be is in the making when you proceed in the acts of loving Him. Read More →
Because I love you, I patiently wait for you. I don’t get upset when you don’t learn something, do something, or respond as quickly as I think you should. I gracefully allow you to move to the beat of your own drum, because loving you means loving that beat. Read More →
Yes – it is graduation season. Not a day goes by that I don’t see a stream of pics of caps, gowns and diplomas on my social media timelines. Whether it is a kindergartner getting ready to go to 1st grade or an accomplished scholar completing their doctorate, the emotions are all the same. Excitement, a sense of accomplishment and pride, and a tinge of fear of what is on the other side of the promotion all surround these momentous occasions. But what about the times when promotion isn’t highlighted? What about the small happenings and triumphs we endure daily that go unnoticed? Read More →
Implicit bias is defined as a positive or negative mental attitude towards a person, thing, or group that a person holds at an unconscious level. Most times when we hear the word BIAS, it is used to describe a negative outlook that affects people demographically. We typically hear of racial bias and gender bias. But what about how these biases manifest themselves in your faith and love walk? Read More →